What an exciting new chapter in life! I’m so excited for you Michelle and from one oldest daughter to another, I hope you find all the joy and peace you deserve plus so much more
I love this piece so much! As an eldest daughter too, I was so much more emotional than I expected when I moved out of my family home and in with my husband. It felt so final, and because I’m older than my sisters, it felt like it would be altering their childhoods too.
I've moved out before, but this one feels really special. I had to move back in during the pandemic, and it feels like we've lived many lives in this family house. And, as the eldest daughter, there's so much going through my mind about how or if the hats I wear will change.
Ohh here you go making me cry again!!! I'm so, so excited for you! While not totally the same I think my "home" piece last week shows how much I relate to this - the mourning of the closed chapter despite the excitement of the new one. There are so many "firsts" to come but I'm glad you have such a deep appreciation for the chapter you're about to end ❤️
Wishing you and your boyfriend nothing but the best in your new home and on this new adventure xxx
What a beautiful tribute to this chapter of your life 🤍 as an eldest daughter whose also planning to leave home in the next couple of years, it isn’t lost on me how important this time and this version of myself is. I won’t be able to build my future home without the foundation of this one. Best of luck with your move xo
It's been a strange few months wrestling with change, being excited for the future, but feeling grappled by guilt. I'm sure there's a few more thoughts in me still! You're so right though, our current chapters shape the next.
You are not a terrible person, you are just a person, and sometimes you have to put yourself first. Please share pics of your new home, thanks (even if you need to slide into my DMS to do so, I'm here for it 😂❤️)
While I can't relate entirely to your unique experience, that feeling of two things being true at once, about a new life chapter, resonates deeply and reminds me of similar experiences I've had. Cheers to the next page in your story. 💞
There definitely seems to be some “eldest daughter syndrome” and I can 100% relate to your post and the comments… but I’ve read recently that when we move out, our parents also get a chance to experience life as adults without their identity as parents at the forefront, and I think that’s a nice way to look at it too :) good luck for your move and wishing you all the best for your new chapter <3
Eldest Daughter Syndrome truly encapsulates my life 😂 I've been a third parent pretty much my entire life from teendom. I wonder how things will change once my youngest sibling has flown the nest too. Mostly imagining I'll spend nearly as much time back home still sorting things out for my parents and siblings 🫣
Love this Michelle! This was the first thing I read when I woke up.
As an eldest daughter myself, I completely relate to that sticky guilty feeling one get when you feel like you're moving on with your life - without your family whom you've considered in every decision and step you make (most of the time). But it needs to be done. We got to prioritize ourselves at some point.
Yes, the guilt is unreal. I feel so selfish for moving out and not including my family in everything I do, but I think this will be a big turning point for me too.
This made me teary! 💕
Thanks for reading, Heather! ❤️
What an exciting new chapter in life! I’m so excited for you Michelle and from one oldest daughter to another, I hope you find all the joy and peace you deserve plus so much more
Thanks so much Kylee! Can't wait for this new chapter ❤️
I love this piece so much! As an eldest daughter too, I was so much more emotional than I expected when I moved out of my family home and in with my husband. It felt so final, and because I’m older than my sisters, it felt like it would be altering their childhoods too.
Thanks so much Katherine!
I've moved out before, but this one feels really special. I had to move back in during the pandemic, and it feels like we've lived many lives in this family house. And, as the eldest daughter, there's so much going through my mind about how or if the hats I wear will change.
I truly wish you the best and all the happiness in the world 🫂❤️ These are the important moments in our lives that we must keep precious
Thanks Michela! Couldn't let a big milestone like this move past without commemorating it in some way ❤️
Ohh here you go making me cry again!!! I'm so, so excited for you! While not totally the same I think my "home" piece last week shows how much I relate to this - the mourning of the closed chapter despite the excitement of the new one. There are so many "firsts" to come but I'm glad you have such a deep appreciation for the chapter you're about to end ❤️
Wishing you and your boyfriend nothing but the best in your new home and on this new adventure xxx
Thanks Soph!! I'm so excited yet feeling oh so sentimental about it all ❤️
(Also have to-do lists coming out of my ears, so why not spiral instead of be productive? hahaha)
What a beautiful tribute to this chapter of your life 🤍 as an eldest daughter whose also planning to leave home in the next couple of years, it isn’t lost on me how important this time and this version of myself is. I won’t be able to build my future home without the foundation of this one. Best of luck with your move xo
Thank you Jamie!
It's been a strange few months wrestling with change, being excited for the future, but feeling grappled by guilt. I'm sure there's a few more thoughts in me still! You're so right though, our current chapters shape the next.
You are not a terrible person, you are just a person, and sometimes you have to put yourself first. Please share pics of your new home, thanks (even if you need to slide into my DMS to do so, I'm here for it 😂❤️)
Thanks Charlotte 🥺
Unsure how much I'll share of the new place just yet, perhaps a few snippets here and there!
While I can't relate entirely to your unique experience, that feeling of two things being true at once, about a new life chapter, resonates deeply and reminds me of similar experiences I've had. Cheers to the next page in your story. 💞
Thanks for your kind comment Brittany ❤️
There definitely seems to be some “eldest daughter syndrome” and I can 100% relate to your post and the comments… but I’ve read recently that when we move out, our parents also get a chance to experience life as adults without their identity as parents at the forefront, and I think that’s a nice way to look at it too :) good luck for your move and wishing you all the best for your new chapter <3
Eldest Daughter Syndrome truly encapsulates my life 😂 I've been a third parent pretty much my entire life from teendom. I wonder how things will change once my youngest sibling has flown the nest too. Mostly imagining I'll spend nearly as much time back home still sorting things out for my parents and siblings 🫣
Wishing you all the best for this new chapter, Michelle! SO many exciting things to come ✨
Aahh thanks Ella! Very excited! Although I fear I may not have much writing time for a good few weeks 😂
good luck on your move!! wishing you so much happiness and blessings <3
Thanks Jani!!
Love this Michelle! This was the first thing I read when I woke up.
As an eldest daughter myself, I completely relate to that sticky guilty feeling one get when you feel like you're moving on with your life - without your family whom you've considered in every decision and step you make (most of the time). But it needs to be done. We got to prioritize ourselves at some point.
Good luck to this new chapter of your life.
Thanks Riza ❤️
Yes, the guilt is unreal. I feel so selfish for moving out and not including my family in everything I do, but I think this will be a big turning point for me too.
Congratulations on the move Kalista! Such an exciting chapter ❤️
I feel precisely the same. I've been working through my emotions with plenty of writing – perhaps I'll share a little something soon.